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Sunday, September 11, 2005

Its Never Personal...

Some time back, a relationship of mine ended. It did not go down well on me, I was very sore. To put it simply, I was buay kam wan(not satisfied) with the way events turn up towards and after the end. I was so confused with many issues evolving from pride, ego, anger and remorse, just to name a few.

A friend consoled me,"Its never personal."

It made perfect sense to me then, but it took quite awhile for the inner me to accept it.

After the breakup, I tried to blame everyone I could lay my finger on. This bugger for being at that place and time. That fucker for rejoicing behind the scenes. Her for not saying this. Her for doing that. You for telling me this. They for not feeling.

Then I realise, its really easy to blame something. But does blaming change anything? It doesn't change the past, nor will it benefit the future. Things happen and we just gonna carry on playing the hands that were dealt. Yes, its never personal. Easier said than done, that I know.

Truth be told, if its meant to be, its will be. If two person were meant to be, it shouldn't be too difficult. Why so? Love someone that much and should the intensity be mutual, you'll hold on somehow. You still gonna need to try and make things work out, but it should revolve around willing compromises, not circumstances induced by obstinance.

If its over, its over. Better to have had your heart broken than never to have lived before. A lot of us may not be able to move on, plagued by beautiful memories from the previous relationship. Perhaps we are just afraid that once we let go, we will never be able to re-live the same kind of sensations once more. That's just so unfair to the future as I like to think that things can only get more beautiful from then onwards.

This post goes out to all those nursing their wounds out there. You may not be able to set yourself free after reading this. But at least ponder on it, and you might breathe a little lighter.

This on the other hand, might just completely take your breath away.

13 Comments:

At 12:43 AM, Blogger sassyjan said...

prescription:
- retail therapy

take it as frequent as possible.
take it only after paying ur credit card bills.

should wrk.

 
At 9:39 AM, Blogger Bittersweet said...

I am still confuse now.. Part of me want to strangle him for finding someone soon, yet part of me wished him good luck in his relationship.
I blamed myself for not being good enough. Not good enough to make him stay.
Maybe the next relationship will be better but can we really let go of our past?
Thanks for this post. Really made me feel alot better =]

To SassyJan: I believe in Food therapy =p

 
At 9:57 AM, Blogger c said...

I'm more mad then sad.

Mad that he left me high and dry.

~inex

 
At 9:58 AM, Blogger Mezz said...

Heartfelt sentiments...will keep this in mind. Cheers, TP... :)

 
At 10:15 AM, Blogger *thekinkyprincess* said...

Its always difficult tryin to adapt to changes at first.But Change is constant in life and there's nuthin we can do 'bt it but to deal with it and overcome tat obstacle.
Time may not always help you in healin all wounds..but it may easen the heavy load in your heart in time when someone comes better(although you dun think its ever possible now)
Take A break from Social Connections.Go to the Beach.Slow down and listen wat the sea have to say.I do tat when I'm upset.

Meanwhile..Stay Strong and Take Care =)

 
At 11:43 AM, Blogger TriplePeriod said...

Janice: Are you are saying that I should get the Celica now?

bittersweet: Yah. Its very hurting when the other party seems to be able to get over you easily and it makes you question your self-worth. And darling, you were always good enough for him. Long as wo men dui de qi zi ji. =)

inex: Try knocking on my door slightly earlier then...like 1a.m.?

immezzler: Cheers. Gd luck to your marathon. =p

alex: I believe that someone will come along, maybe not the same but you do not compare people to people.

 
At 4:20 PM, Blogger sassyjan said...

not a bad idea!!! If u like it, get it!!



footnote: Do not take shopping / financial advice from chronic shopaholics.

 
At 5:30 PM, Blogger intoxicated.girl.guide said...

Aiya my theory is simple:

Whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

I second retail therapy. Ha.. it's great!

 
At 8:03 PM, Blogger nahele said...

it is definitely not easy to let go, and it will hurt and linger one for a while. like bittersweet said, part of you is angry, yet another part is happy that he/she moved on.

but i believe that when you do let go ultimately, you will very much feel lighter and happier, and take whatever failed in the past as a lesson, and look ahead with a happier outlook on life =) hard no doubt, but achievable

 
At 12:52 PM, Blogger Alphabet Moppet said...

Hope you breathe a little easier already. I miss the times when we would go around in your car for food even though i was very "bright" like how a lightbulb should. Do you know you fucking messaged me 9 times yesterday and there was nothing in the sms?

 
At 1:23 PM, Blogger Ah 9 said...

twit - i think he was drunk last night liao...lol

tp - celica??? wtf...u serious ah? babe magnet leh...LOL

 
At 3:34 PM, Blogger Bittersweet said...

Shopping is great only if you have the $$$.

Which i seriously lack in. Bleahx!

 
At 8:04 PM, Blogger TriplePeriod said...

janice: i'm not talking about the toy model here leh.

Intoxicated: What if it kills?

nahele: So true.

bunny: We still have chance to do it but only difference is, there will be no bulb. And the message, sorry lah, I din realise til I checked my phone late.

ah9: Piang. Babe magnet is the reason why.

bittersweet: Buy less and cheap lor.

 

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