Its Never Personal...

Some time back, a relationship of mine ended. It did not go down well on me, I was very sore. To put it simply, I was buay kam wan(not satisfied) with the way events turn up towards and after the end. I was so confused with many issues evolving from pride, ego, anger and remorse, just to name a few.

A friend consoled me,"Its never personal."

It made perfect sense to me then, but it took quite awhile for the inner me to accept it.

After the breakup, I tried to blame everyone I could lay my finger on. This bugger for being at that place and time. That fucker for rejoicing behind the scenes. Her for not saying this. Her for doing that. You for telling me this. They for not feeling.

Then I realise, its really easy to blame something. But does blaming change anything? It doesn't change the past, nor will it benefit the future. Things happen and we just gonna carry on playing the hands that were dealt. Yes, its never personal. Easier said than done, that I know.

Truth be told, if its meant to be, its will be. If two person were meant to be, it shouldn't be too difficult. Why so? Love someone that much and should the intensity be mutual, you'll hold on somehow. You still gonna need to try and make things work out, but it should revolve around willing compromises, not circumstances induced by obstinance.

If its over, its over. Better to have had your heart broken than never to have lived before. A lot of us may not be able to move on, plagued by beautiful memories from the previous relationship. Perhaps we are just afraid that once we let go, we will never be able to re-live the same kind of sensations once more. That's just so unfair to the future as I like to think that things can only get more beautiful from then onwards.

This post goes out to all those nursing their wounds out there. You may not be able to set yourself free after reading this. But at least ponder on it, and you might breathe a little lighter.

This on the other hand, might just completely take your breath away.